This is a collection of stories about my journey to find answers to the challenges surrounding my relationships with my mother, father, and grandparents, especially during my childhood and adolescence. I have explored these challenges in the context of “cultural norms,” “traditions,” and the ancestral or collective trauma that has been passed down through generations.
It reflects on a journey that started when a stroke incapacitated my mother. It delves into the silence that moves through generations surrounding abuse, alcoholism, and my parents’ lived experiences, uncovering how these issues have shaped my life as I strive to heal from unanswered questions, lost parental love, and trauma.
They tell stories of disappointment, resilience, hope, and the understanding that not everything can be answered, recaptured, forgiven, or forgotten.
I am a Chicagoan, a Chicano, and the proud son of Graciela Rodríguez Gómez and Héctor Andrés Fernández Guerrero, both hailing from Guanajuato, México.

Wounds passed down through generations—abuse, silence, loss. These stories explore one man’s journey to understand, survive, and rise from the ache of ancestral pain.